If the first name that sprung forth was your own, stop reading!  Your sense of self and value within is spot on. For those of you who thought of yourself for a split second and then allowed those pesky little negators talk you out of staying true to yourself, then I would like to talk more with you!  If there's something I can do, it's motivate and encourage. I can really enhance your perspective of yourself and help you retrain your brain to be more positive, accepting, and powerful.  

How can she do this you ask? Because I have had the displeasure of being a negative self-talker for many years.  Oh, I can have the highest energy, the greatest positivity for others.  It is almost boundless. But when it came to myself, I was brutal and unforgiving.  Very key word there - was.  This is how I know that retraining your brain is not only possible, it is a powerful thing to have within yourself. 

Do you have it? Do you want it?   I'd love to hear from you! Anissa

 

I.      Thou shall not worry.
For worry is the most unproductive of all human activities.

II.     Thou shall not be fearful.
For most of the things we fear never come to pass.

III.    Thou shall not cross bridges before you come to them.
For no one has yet succeeded in accomplishing this.

IV.     Thou shall face each problem as it comes.
You can only handle one at a time anyway.

V.      Thou shall not take problems to bed with you. For they make poor bedfellows.

VI.     Thou shall not borrow other people's problems.  They can better care
for them than you can.

VII.    Thou shall not try to relive yesterday for good or ill, it is forever gone.
Concentrate on what is happening in your life and be happy now!

VIII.   Thou shall be a good listener.
For only when you listen do you hear different ideas from your own. It is hard to learn something new when you are talking, and some people do know more that you do.

IX.     Thou shall not become "bogged-down" by frustration.
For 90% of it is rooted in self-pity and will only interfere with positive action.

X.      Thou shall count thy blessings.
Never overlooking the small ones. For a lot of small blessings add up to a big one.

When you know how to uncover values you are able to better understand behavior and develop relationships.

To really build relationships with your team, boss, partner, clients or friends, you need to understand their values. As you understand their values, you understand what drives them and motivates their behavior.

Values are opinions about what is important and what is not. Values are deeply meaningful for us and they determine our behaviour. They are hot buttons that provide meaning to our life. The easiest way to elicit values is to ask: "What is important to you about... " and then listen carefully to the key words that come in response.

For example, you are interviewing a candidate and you want to know more about her; you want to know her values.  You ask: 'What is important to you about work?' She replies: 'I want a challenge, something that allows me to use my skills and develop new ones, and I like working with people.' Her answer reveals four key values and allows you to understand a lot about the role that will suit and motivate her.

Eliciting the values of those around you will make a real difference in terms of your ability to understand, inspire and build meaningful relationships. Enjoy the difference it makes! Anissa